Grieving with Purpose – Your grief can have a purpose.

Grieving with Purpose: Your grief can have a purpose.

On March 2nd, 2005 my world shattered around me as I watched my husband of 23 years step over the threshold of this world and into the next. I suddenly found myself in the midst of the Valley Of Shadows and grief colored and covered my world. It was here in the barren mountains of grief that God began to speak to me of healing my heart and of approaching my grief with purpose. With His hand outstretched to me and a promise of taking His time in healing me, we began our journey out of the Valley of Shadows and into restoration.

If you are at this site then in some way grief has touched your life. Maybe it is recent or maybe it is an old grief that hangs on and seems to not let you go. People approach grief in different ways and each one of us grieves uniquely. To grieve with purpose is to move forward in your grief ,working through the pain instead of running from it. To grieve with purpose is to set goals and allow God to speak into your life and show you how healing is to take place for you.

We are here to encourage you in your grief walk. This site is established on the truth that God is able through Jesus Christ to redeem every situation and bring about healing and restoration in our lives. Only He is able to put back the pieces of your shattered world and offer you a life that is worth choosing to move forward in.

Well meaning people will tell you that you will never get over this grief; that you will never feel better. This is simply not truth. Yes, grief has forever altered my life. Yes, grief may sting your heart even years later in some unexpected way. This is not the same as living under the cloud of grief. It is the price of loving someone and choosing not to forget them. It is a price worth paying, as our loved ones deserve to be remembered and to be cherished.

I am not the same person that I was on March 1st,2005,but that does not mean that I am doomed to live my life despair and sorrow. I can move forward in my life without leaving the one I loved behind. I can have laughter, a song, joy, and a life that is full and rich. I can do this,but only if I work through my grief holding the hand of the One who loves me most of all.

Within the first month of my husband’s death, Easter arrived. My children and I had gone to be with David’s parents for our first holiday without him. It was there in the mountains of NC that I woke to hear a bird singing brightly outside my window. As I lay in the bed with the bird singing as loud and sweet as possible I thought of how I hated that bird. How dare he sing with David gone?? It seemed the more I hated that song, the louder that bird sang. Then I heard Jesus whisper softly in my ear, “Choose life, Choose Life”. The bird’s song seemed different. It brought comfort to my pain filled heart. That song sings to you as well. Choose life. Choose hope. Grieve, but grieve with purpose. Grieve with Hope. Grieve with God.